5 Ways To Turn Up The Love

5 Ways To Turn Up The Love

Over the years in my pursuit and mission to create a kinder world I began to notice how hard I still was on myself. Never feeling like I was doing enough, being enough, working enough, contributing enough, or what I was saying or doing might even be too much. This battle went on for decades until I realized “ahhh” self love and kindness to myself, were the key.


The more I began to feel the love from within, the more energy I found I had to effortlessly create a kinder world in every moment, by BEing the love and kindness I desired to see.


Perhaps the greatest struggle we will face in this life is to accept and love ourselves in spite of our human flaws, failures, mis-steps, regrets and missed opportunities. I wish I could tell you there was a magic pill, though what I know is that none of this will change, without a little work, because sadly we seem to be programmed to ridicule, criticize, demoralize and diminish ourselves.


It’s truly so much easier and more magical to make your way through life when you choose to look through the lens of love for yourself.


And if self-love seems a little far-fetched for where you are at in your life right now, what if you were at least willing to consider taking the first step towards experimenting with increasing your love of self. What’s the worst that could happen … you might even find you actually enJOY yourself and life a little more each and everyday.


So let’s Turn Up The Love .. with my 5 simple keys to activating and opening your heart to greater self love ..


(NB. tomorrow never comes and so as you read these I want to encourage you to CHOOSE ONE, schedule it in and commit to doing something, anything everyday which you feel is an ACT of self love.)


  1. Celebrate Your Great each day.Have you ever felt like you needed a compliment? Go ahead and give yourself one! Think about all your great qualities and congratulate and celebrate yourself on one of these. There’s no reason to wait for someone else to get around to saying something amazing. Give yourself a nice compliment right now.


Many years back I arrived home from holidays and my cousin had put post-it notes of love all around my apartment. I kept them up and read them daily, and everyday I could feel it added a little self love skip to my happy step.

  1. Make a list of your accomplishments.You’ve accomplished plenty of great things, and I bet you have many wonderful qualities that you’ve been overlooking.Make a list of all of them. Be creative and give this exercise some thought. You’ll find that your life has been more impressive than you realized.


Doing this one activity, and writing down three great things every day for 2 weeks has been shown to boost confidence and optimism levels by up to 60%, and yes optimism and self love are very near and dear friends.


  1. Greet What Your Eat with Love.We all know when we take better care of ourselves by making some changes to how or what we eat, we feel better. I’m a massive believer in listening to your body to discover which foods are healthy for you. Food is meant to be fuel and so if after eating you feel tired, bloated or have less energy, choose something different next time.


Often clients share with me that they feel “guilty” when they eat. If this is you, let’s imagine adding something to your day that when you eat it, it feels like a divine act of self love. It could be added greens, an extra salad or even your morning coffee .. whatever you choose as you eat it imagine it filling every cell in your body with greater levels of love.


I gave up coffee for many years because I thought I should and then I realized how much pleasure, joy and LOVE I got out of my morning latte.. Turning it into a soulFULL self love, self care and mindfulness ritual now fuels me every single day with even more love to ripple out into the world.


Yes, a FULL CUP has some much overflow we can’t help but want to give more to others. 


  1. Kindness matters. Spending time on something important to you is a great way to elevate how you feel about yourself from the inside, out. Random acts of kindness are great ways to start and have been shown to create huge amounts of happiness and health benefits. Choose an act of kindness, or opportunity to support a cause you believe in and within no time you will find turning up the love effortless.


Even a smile at a stranger can have a huge positive impact on how we are feeling in our day. Most mornings after enjoying my orgasmic latte, I then take some time to see how many strangers I can connect with and share a “GOOD MORNING smile.” Now I assure you they don’t all receive or return my action of kindness, though this isn’t the point. In my heart I know I am being the change and could possibly be the only smile one of these amazing souls receives today.


  1. Be grateful.Appreciating what you have, rather than focusing on what is missing, makes it so much easier to love yourself. Think about your life and make a list of the things and people that fill you with gratitude and the reasons why.You might even be surprised by how much of a great life you already have, and did you know science has proven its impossible to FEEL grateful and depressed at the same time. So as you are writing and reading your attitudes of gratitude ensure you take time to really connect in with how it makes you feel.


A little self-love a day is truly what the DR of LOVE ordered … and will enhance every part of your life. So remember to schedule your daily acts of self love and lets get elevating your inner world, to completely maximise the magnetic miracles in your our world.



Big love, Kyla


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Dabbling is no longer an option

Dabbling is no longer an option

Business leaders, a warning. These statistics might shock you and galvanise you into action!

To ‘dabble’ is defined as taking part in an activity in a casual or superficial way. When it comes to corporate culture and wellbeing initiatives, ‘dabbling’ is no longer an option.

Having worked in the industry for over 9 years, we have seen it all. Staff wellbeing and cultural change programs launched and then suddenly cut because funding was re-allocated. Employees surveyed and then nothing done. Worse still, the growing epidemic of work-related stress, loneliness, disconnection and mental health issues which can lead to suicide, depression,  anxiety and excessive overwhelm simply being ignored.

It’s not all doom and gloom though. We’ve also experienced employers and business leaders who truly care about their team’s engagement, contribution, health and happiness, and seen wellbeing programs and initiatives deliver fantastic, long-standing results. Research shows an ROI of between $3-5 on every dollar invested in wellbeing programs, and $2.03 in mental health initiatives.1

As levels of work-related stress and mental health issues continue to climb, it’s our responsibility as providers of wellness services to take a stronger stand and share our knowledge and experience.

We need to get the message out there.

Health, wellbeing and real human CONNECTION at work MUST be higher on the priority list if we are to combat the mental health epidemic gripping our organisations.


Mental health issues are the leading cause of illness, absenteeism, presenteeism (attending work and under-performing while unwell) and long-term-work incapacity in Australia.2 Suicide levels are climbing at an alarming rate. Eight Australians die by their own hand each day, six of them men.3

For every person who takes their own life, there are another 30 attempts, with nearly 86,000 Australians attempting suicide each year. Suicide is the most common cause of death in Australians aged 15-44, more likely to kill than a motor vehicle accident or skin cancer. Studies show workplace bullying costs Australian organisations $6-$36 billion a year.The numbers are shocking.

An alarming 20 per cent of suicides are linked to work. At a summit in May 2017, crisis support service Lifeline said we were facing a “national suicide emergency.”5

And yet many HR teams and business leaders are not even talking about these issues. Either they are unaware, only ‘dabbling’ in wellbeing, or, worse still, they do not regard employee wellbeing as a priority. Herein lies the problem.


For our workplaces to thrive, it’s critical that employers and business leaders create get serious about creating a sustainable cultural shift, focused on resilience, wellness and connection, on an ongoing basis. It’s imperative we include employee wellbeing as business objective. Smart companies know that investing in their people improves the bottom line; it’s just common sense.

We need to encourage relaxation, slowing down and taking mental breaks throughout the day. Studies show the brain is 31% more productive in a positive state, rather than neutral, negative or stressed.6

Workers need to become ‘self-led leaders,’ taking responsibility and prioritising their health and wellbeing and that of those around them.

We need to remove the culture of shame, blame, and cynicism and be willing to address mental health as we do any other health issue.

We need structural change within industries and workplace norms, and the support and funding of government.

Sadly, this epidemic is not going away. The increasing use of technology, social media and virtual reality will raise stress levels further, worsening the impact on our health.

The situation is critical. Many Australians are unwell and it’s costing our organisations millions of dollars each year. It’s no longer enough to expect HR managers, or people passionate about wellness, to be your organisation’s advocates for a culture of wellness.

This is why we’re in business of wellness, and have been collectively for over 16 years. We can be your partner in wellness, working with you and your leaders to design a program which decreases disengagement, depression, anxiety and feeling overwhelmed, and improves the engagement, health, happiness, productivity and performance of your staff.

Let’s CONNECT TODAYand work together to design and deploy world-class, transformational change and greater commercial success for your organisation